The ability to love beyond the fear of being hurt… that’s what life is all about isn’t it! I too had hardening in control to manage feelings of uncertainty and anxiety. Now I embrace it!
I will go first. My hardening was in control. Wanting to control the outcome of everything - my thoughts, my emotions, my partner - as a way of not feeling. But overtime control became my doorway into understanding my relationship with pain. I used to deny pains existence but now, after many years of unraveling and practice I now see that vulnerability is not only my most connected state but my most creative and loving home. Tenderness has become a more familiar language, however there are still many days where I forget and resistance is in the driving seat. I am learning. Slowly but surely, I am softening x
The ability to love beyond the fear of being hurt… that’s what life is all about isn’t it! I too had hardening in control to manage feelings of uncertainty and anxiety. Now I embrace it!
Wise words, Sam. Embracing all of our experiences, is how we learn to embrace our entire life. With you x
I will go first. My hardening was in control. Wanting to control the outcome of everything - my thoughts, my emotions, my partner - as a way of not feeling. But overtime control became my doorway into understanding my relationship with pain. I used to deny pains existence but now, after many years of unraveling and practice I now see that vulnerability is not only my most connected state but my most creative and loving home. Tenderness has become a more familiar language, however there are still many days where I forget and resistance is in the driving seat. I am learning. Slowly but surely, I am softening x